Before we talk about what this change is...

what does a "better man" even mean?

In my opinion, a better man means being able to accomplish the things that you weren't able to accomplish before by improving every aspect of your life.

It's about being healthy enough to be able to do all the physical activities that you love. Having the mental strength to face and overcome failures and setbacks. Last but not the least, having the financial capacity to cover all your monthly expenses and at the same time having enough to spend for some "wants".

Now is this is similar to your definition of a "better man" as well?

If yes, then hop on as I share with you what is this change that you need to do and how you can start this change.

Though this change that I'm talking about is "SIMPLE", it takes time, practice, dedication, and continuous motion. It means that it's an ongoing process. You might reach a certain level of improvement but you have to keep becoming better to continuously reap the benefits.

Without further ado, this change that I'm talking about is...

"drum roll"

Dressing Well!

You might be thinking, after all the build-up, that's it?

Yes, that's it. Like what I've told you earlier, it's so simple that most men take it for granted. It's so simple that you can even start today.

Let me share with you the story of why I believe that dressing well is important.

In my third year at my corporate job, I got tired of getting passed over for promotion. I dedicated my time learning on how to get my first promotion and a major part of the lessons I've learned is that you have "dress to impress", "look the part", we can call it whatever we want but it simply means we have to learn how to dress well.

I believe that dressing well is an investment, not just towards your career but to your personal life as well. It's a subliminal way of sending the message that you know what you do and you pay attention to details.

It's a form of self-love and respect and it's also a way of showing your respect to the people that you meet and work with.

Now, the question is how do we begin this process of dressing well?

1) Tailor Swift!

It's time for you going to a tailor. Whether if it's a "modesta" (Filipino word for a female tailor), "sastre" (Filipino word for a male tailor) from the tailor shop at the "kanto" (corner block), or the alteration shops at the mall, you have to START bringing your ill-fitting clothes and have it adjusted for your specific body type.

To find the most "sulit"(bang for the buck) among the shops near me, what I did was to bring a long sleeve to each of the shops that I was testing out to find out which one has the best craftsmanship versus the price.

The shop that I trust with my alterations and custom made suits and shirts is Exclusively His Tailoring

Adjustment would range from Php 50 - Php 200, a very affordable investment that would increase your "pogi points" 2 to 5 x(times) depending on the quality of the tailoring.

After your long sleeves are done, get your short sleeves adjusted as well then your pants(jeans, slacks, etc.)

With your pants, I suggest that you have it tapered. The "mananahi"s call it "baston". Use that term and they'll know what to do :).

Our goal here is for your clothes to have a better silhouette without sacrificing comfort. It means that there shouldn't be excess fabric but you should still have freedom of movement.



It doesn't matter what your body type is, as long as your clothes fit you well you'll look much better than before.

Always remember that FIT is KING!

2) The PURGE!

Look at your closet and separate the items that you no longer wear and those that you love wearing. Keep the clothes that you love and you may donate those that you don't.

A good rule of thumb that I follow when I purge my closet is that I ask myself, "do I feel confident when I wear this?" If the answer is no then it goes to the donation box.

3) Bureau of Customs!

After you experience the basic magic of a "modesta" and "sastre", It's for you to be amazed by their "superpower". It's time for you to indulge in custom made shirts (long and short sleeves) and even suits.

Beware, my friends, when you start going custom, it's hard to go back to off the rack clothes.

Imagine having clothing wherein you pick every detail, from the fabric, buttons, fit, etc. Clothing that was exclusively made for you. Yes, I wouldn't deny that it cost a bit more than an off the rack clothes but the confidence, comfort and "pogi points" that it brings is worth it.

Some tailor shops have their fabrics but if you want to choose from a variety, then it's time for you to visit fabric shops like Fabric Warehouse, or you may visit fabric meccas like Taytay.

Fabric hunting takes time and practice and it's also a matter of preference but as you go deeper into this process of dressing better you'll enjoy every step.

Most fabric sellers are very helpful and wouldn't mind giving you a recommendation on what fabric to get or how much you need depending on the purpose. Some sell on a per kg basis(Taytay) and some are on a per yard basis so if you're not sure about how much to get don't hesitate to ask away.

These are the basic steps to get you started in your journey to dress better and become a better man and if you have other suggestions or questions feel free to post it in the comments section below.

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