Life is too good for "Pwede na"
"Pwede na" a phrase that can be translated to good enough or that will do, depending on the context.
I decided to write about this topic because recently I met someone, who like 97% of men is making a very critical mistake when it comes to relationships and attraction.
Let's call him Ji, and Ji like 97% of men are making a grave mistake of trying to buy his way through a woman's heart.
This is the social conditioning we've gone through for such a long time and although a lot of dating and relationship coaches are already breaking this myth, it's still very apparent that 97 - 99 % of men still believe that they can buy their way through a woman's heart.
I'm no way dissing the fact that you need to work on your career, business or any other source of income that would yield you a comfortable life. I do even suggest that you work on those things and enjoy the fruits of your labor.
Developing your career and all other aspects of your life help build your confidence and character. It goes hand in hand with you being able to enjoy the byproducts of your perseverance. (i.e. earning enough to live a comfortable life)
Let's get down to business, and I'll share it with you straight up, it's not these byproducts (i.e. money, cars, houses, etc.) that attract women (yes there are exceptions) but it's your character and self-worth or value as a person.
Yes, some women may try to be practical about it but, being practical and attraction are very different.
Ok, let's simplify further my friends. It's not your money that attracts women, it's your vibe, centeredness, and confidence.
Going back to Ji, he was trying to woe a woman who was having marital problems. He was trying to take advantage of the situation by being a " Knight in Shining Armor" or a "shoulder to cry on".
He's showing signs of low self-esteem because he believes that that is the only way for him to be in a relationship with this woman.
Let's get this straight gentleman. The way we approach and think about relationships is very different from the way women do. It simply means that you can't "logically" convince a woman to be attracted to you.
"I'm rich, I'll take care of you, I'll love your kid/s, I'm loyal/faithful, yadi yada yada. These are the usual messages that men are trying to send to the woman they like through their actions, hoping that one day they would realize it, and just "decide" to fall in love with you (it looks good and movies, and other media, but it's very different in reality).
The bottom line is, love yourself first. Take care of your body by working out and eating healthy. Take care of your mind by continuously learning. Attraction will come naturally to people who love and take care of themselves.
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